Do you have a senior in high school who’s thinking about college?
We do, and I am so glad that I have been here before so that I know what to expect! The biggest concern for us, and many others will be all of the expenses. Here are some things that we learned the first time around, as well as some things that I wish we had known. Make sure that you and your senior are on the same page about all expenses. *This post may contain affiliate links. This means , at no additional cost to you, we will earn a small commission if you click the link and make a purchase.
There are the expenses that you know about. There will always also be some things that come up unexpectedly; those can be dealt with as they occur.
Living expenses are a big deal.
Where will your student live? There will be choices for housing from the actual dorms to the types of rooms. Will they have a roommate? Will you pay for the items that they decorate their room with or will they be expected to pay for some? Is there a set amount you are willing to spend for this? Also included in these type of expenses are the meal plans. Look at all of the choices and let your student know which of these is the one you are willing to pay for. These types of expenses can be crazy expensive even with you setting limits.
Tuition costs are set per hour. Your student will need books. These can be rented or shared to save on the cost. Another way to save is to check out the library- many schools have their textbooks available there for students to use. There are many websites that rent, including Amazon, which has worked well for both renting and purchasing for my oldest son.
Day to day expenses for your student should be a topic for discussion.
This would be for things like a meal off of campus, personal grooming items or school supplies that run out, and new clothing or shoes. What will you be willing to spend on these types of items? What will you expect your student to spend of their own money, if any?
This is a good time to start planning that budget for next year.
What do you spend now on your kid for day-to-day expenses? Does your child have a job? Should they get one? Are you planning on them working in college for their extra expenses? Either way, you need to figure out what the budget will be.
There are many ways of working this out with your kids. For our boys, we pay for school, housing with a meal plan, and books. Anything, else is on them such as meals off of campus, fraternity, and clothes. This means that they have worked since they were 15 during summers, and part time during school each year for their spending money.
Our oldest son was able to get a great scholarship package for his grades, ACT, BSA Eagle and Boy’s State. We aren’t really spending much on him at all. Our second son will have a different situation, but we have already talked with him at length about this, and he knows what the budgeted amount will be. He will be utilizing the A+ program which I describe below.
Our state (Missouri) has a great program called the A+ Program. If a student shows good citizenship, has the required attendance, the required GPA, and with teacher supervision tutors a peer for at least 50 hours, then they graduate with A+ requirements on their record. (There are a few other items on the list, but these are the main ones.) This is a great help for getting community college, and hopefully an Associate’s Degree, basically for free-except for books! The specifics are in the link above. You should check with your school to see about any type of program such as this for a student who does not excel in school or on standardized tests.
Discuss ALL of these expenses with as much information that you can find.
This means looking at the college website. Open all tabs on the website pertaining to costs and scholarships. (Look for all of the fees! There are things like parking fees, technology fees, health insurance fees…) Be open about what you as parents are thinking is a reasonable budget. Be open to questions from your child. This is a time to work together to figure out these things. Don’t wait until they have gone to college. This would be too late for any type of agreement since they would already be gone. Neither side should have to assume anything! You know what your budget is, so tell your child up front. Your child may have some expectations as well. This is the time to lay it all out on the table. Ann wrote a blog post on paying for college. Check it out here.
Some sample expenses for freshman year could be: car payment and insurance, gas, cell phone, fun money for going out, groceries (for dorm room, also toiletries as they run out), clothing, student loan payments, credit card… What is your child responsible for now? Will it be the same when they are gone at college? If you would like it to be different than what it is now, then now is the time to change things!
Check out our budget planner for you and your soon-to-be college student to fill out together.
All things considered, starting these discussions sooner than later is best. This can be a fun time to figure things out together, and to make decisions as a team.
Good luck to you all! Let us know how this goes for you!